A Friendship Formed in Silence
She’s one of those ladies who seem as though she left a Dorothea Lange photo. She’s not mature enough to have experienced the Great Depression, yet the lines all over propose a story she’d never spread with cosmetics. She wears her silver hair in an extreme twist, and her painter’s jeans mirror her utilitarian mien.
We see each other at school get: she, for her grandkids; me, for my children.
By all appearances, we appear to be tremendously changed. I have a proclivity towards what my significant other calls “Mary Tyler-Moore” gatherings, and will possibly go out without establishment and lipstick in case I’m sick.
The lady and I recognize each other with a head gesture. We share a regard that doesn’t require the other to tune in to amenable gab. We are agreeable enough in ourselves to persevere through the quietness, as though quietness itself forms a kinship.
We are not as various as no doubt. I originate from tough stock too. I didn’t have the foggiest idea about the ladies of my lineage; they went before I was conceived. However I’ve heard a portion of their accounts. I’ve seen them in photos, considerable and firm. In these faces, I see what I seek to be—inflexible.
It is anything but a quality that many strive for. One is popular on the off chance that one is accommodating, pleasing, loose. I am not that lady. Nor is my new companion, and we both know it.
Our mutual demeanor proposes a story. A story where others endeavored to form us in their picture. Where they made their needs more significant than our own. A story where we battled to hold solid to our very own feeling of self.
I’m visiting at a ward for a First Communion when I see her serving at Mass. Her hair, in that ever-present twist, and a Birkenstocks-sock combo top out from under her white vestment. As she plays out her Eucharistic obligations, her developments have a genuine quality to them. I see her setting up the table, nourishing the hungry, and tidying up similarly as I envision she has at family dinners her whole life. In her candor, I see the Eucharist is a family dinner. I’ve heard it previously however it’s in her maternal developments that I currently know it. This quotidian demonstration, presently hallowed, feeds a more profound appetite.
During the song of applause, I feel a tap on my shoulder. It’s her; she’s seen me as well.
“Are you ready to drink wine?” she asks me.
I comprehend her to solicit, am I an individual from AA? I am definitely not. I additionally comprehend they have over-assessed the appropriation of the Precious Blood and the Priest has asked that it be expended. I gesture yes and pursue her to the sacristy.
She remains before me with the cup. “The blood of Christ,” she says, at that point hands it to me. I drink. The quietness that has denoted our union is currently private; it turns into its own essence. The wine warms my body, shivers my lips, and I see her once again once more. She remembers me once again. There are things we don’t think about one another. However we know each other superior to most. Also, remaining there together, we know what our identity is.